This is the first morning of school after Spring Break, and if you are a parent going through the same routine, I salute you. My son is the most wonderful experience that I will ever have, but sometimes I just want to put my power chair at full speed and drive away screaming!
I am laughing about this now, but this morning it seemed a lot more serious. My personal care attendant is sick, so I had to do things on the fly today. Thankfully, it gave great subject matter. Eddie, my son, kept looking toward the door to see if she would miraculously appear. No such luck.
Usually, I get Eddie up and he gets himself in the shower. He is very independent, but keeping up with the morning routine (for the most part) is key. I am a big proponent of routines and being prepared. Always be prepared. My significant other is more laid back than I am. I am learning to adapt to him as well… even after all this time.
I have a few thoughts/pointers on “parenting with a disability”:
- Never let anyone tell you that you can’t do this. Parenting is hard for anyone, and those of us who have a disability, learn to adapt fairly quickly. Children also learn to adapt and can feel when a person is willing to love them. My son knows he is loved and that mom has certain things she cannot do. He sees me as mommy.
- Do not be afraid to ask questions. Asking questions provides you with information and a starting point. None of us have all the answers, so research can be your best friend. No question is too insignificant.
- Be patient with yourself. Again, parenting is hard for anyone. Frustration is normal, whether you are becoming a parent or already parenting. Life is a learning process. Take it day by day, and laugh at life’s little jokes.
It is my hope that reading this will help inform and uplift people if only just one person. Thank you so much for listening to my thoughts.