Before I had my son, Noah, I wondered what kind of a Mom I would be. I knew that I wanted to be as involved as I possibly could in his care. I also knew that I could not do everything I want to without help, at least for first few years. Although 90% of […]
reflections
I am not a Superhero
I really, REALLY want to be! I want to be able to do everything at once, and though I know it isn’t quite logical, I’m disappointed whenever I realize my aspirations to be a supermom are impossible. I have even cried tears of frustration because of it. I love pop culture! I love movies! I will […]
We’ve Only Just Begun
Yes, I am aware that I quoted The Carpenters in the title. This is the attitude which I am taking today. Progress is a process, and it isn’t always easy. My son is becoming more conscious of the fact that spasticity can severely limit my movements. Mommy is very tired most of the time. This […]
The Test: Reflections from a Blind Mom
Have you ever been put to the test? Or, been asked to take the test? I’m sure you will know what I’m talking about once you hear my story… Somehow, whether, you are low vision, or totally blind, you have been appointed with the characteristic of independent. This independent label is almost never self-appointed, rather […]
Hide & Seek
I laugh quietly as I remember the time when I hid you in a basket full of clean laundry while playing hide and seek with you and a group of other kids. It was your turn to hide and I always tried to find the most ingenuous hiding spots that kept kids searching and searching, […]
A Life With A Difference
We were thinking about Lio and how his upbringing will be different in some ways to other children. Living with a disability has it’s ups and downs, but how will Lio be affected by growing up around disability? His immune system seems to be very good, which I am sure is due to lots of different people […]
Taking Care of Myself (and Cora!)
Hey guys! I haven’t posted on here in forever. It’s been a combination of writer’s block and having a lot on my plate. Like, you know, this amazing and beautiful little girl that my wife and I made, Cora. I spend most of my time making her smile and coo at me. So, this blog sort of […]
Envy
I used to envy the moms who seemed to have it together -the ones who made it look easy and whose lives afforded them luxuries like driving their kids to school, or the big house with a pool and a big yard- things for which I worked hard but never reached no matter how others […]
Adventures in Disabled Parenting
“You’ll never have children.” I distinctly remember the conversation with my doctor when I was 18, and at the time that was the farthest thought from my mind so it really didn’t bother me. I thought, “I’ll have nieces and nephews and that will fill that void if I ever feel it.” Being born with […]
How Being A Blind Mother Is Like Being On the Walking Dead
We have a strict rule in our house…Sunday nights, from 9-10pm, both kids must be in bed. There is no talking. No cell-phones and absolutely no weekend sex. Ain’t nobody got time for that when they could be watching Rick Grimes and Daryl Dixon take on a herd of walkers! The post-apocalyptic world of zombies versus […]